I Got That A Lot

I heard that a lot from people around me. 

When I was a child, I thought that life was easy because I did not need to struggle to achieve something as I could ask my parents to get it. As I grow old, I learned a lot from my experiences that I need to fight to get what I want. Everything will not come easily. Then, I realize that to get a perfect life is not easy.

Everybody wants to be happy in life. I also want to live a perfect life. I want that great job or a successful business. I want to be married to Mr. Right. I want to have great kids. I want to have friends that stick by us come rain or shine. I want to be able to have all the material things life has to offer and have all my problems just disappear.

There are so many people living on this planet, and all of them have their own views on what life means to them. There are optimists, pessimists, realists who have rather different views considering the events happening in their life. If I say that life is a challenge, this doesn’t necessarily mean that I perceive the world in a dull way – it means that I can understand that life is not always a piece of cake, but in this feature there also can be seen the beauty of life.

There are many different moments in my life when I'm sad or disappointed; often there is injustice and various events that are bitter and very unpleasant. I cannot totally avoid these aspects of my life, as it is always interrelated with the other people and everything can drastically change any moment. A lot of people find these challenges to be too hard for them and in such situations they just choose not to interfere in the course of affairs and complain about their life, as if someone sympathizes with their misery. But as for me, I choose to perceive these challenges in such a way that they polish my character and make me a better person.

Thus, life is and should not be just a bed of roses; thorns are also a part of it and should be accepted by us just as we accept the beautiful side of life.

The thorns remind one of how success and happiness can be evasive and thus not to feel disappointed and disheartened rather remember that the pain of thorns is short-lived, and the beauty of life would soon overcome the prick of thorns. Lastly, just enjoy our life because it becomes more meaningful.

" Enjoy the little things in life, because one day you will look back and 

realize they were the big things "

MAKING JUGDEMENT

       Judgment is actually the act or process of forming an opinion or making a decision after careful thought, the act of judging something or someone. Besides, it is the ability to make good decisions about what should be done.

Why do so many people feel the need to make fun of and judge others?

This question crosses my mind daily. I wonder why we, as humans, feel the need to judge and degrade others.

Well, I believe that everyone judges other by their appearance, and those who deny that are either hypocrites or simply wrong. Unfortunately, the presumptions about others are totally unavoidable no matter how much effort we put in, trying to follow the good saying " Don't judge book by its cover " and be open-minded. 

     It’s human nature to compare ourselves to others, whether it’s to our family members, peers or even celebrities we see in the media.But it's important how you do it and how much you base on it. We base our judgments of ourselves and others on these comparisons.

In addition, people are different. No two people are completely alike. We need to accept these differences and stop judging people. It is hurtful to them and makes the people ridiculing them look bad. Even if one does not verbalize their judgments, it does not mean their insensitive thoughts are acceptable. It goes with the saying: If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.

For my opinion, I think it’s unfair for me to draw conclusions and opinions about others without knowing them. It is because I don't really like people judge me without knowing who actually I am. While walking on campus, it’s easy to look at the person walking past me and make quick judgments. These judgments are usually based upon their outward appearance. But, when my mind start to judge someone, I'll tell myself that they must have a reason why they're acting like that. As a human, we need  to accept others for who they are and not make fun of them simply because they are different from other person.

For example, a 24 year old boy seeing out from the train's window shouted, "Dad, look the trees are going behind!", dad smiled and a young couple sitting nearby, looked at the boy's childish behavior with pity. Suddenly he again exclaimed,"Dad, look the clouds are running with us!", the couple couldn't resist and said to the old man, "Why don't you take your son to a good doctor?", the old man smiled. He said, "We are just coming from the hospital, my son was blind from birth, he just got his eyes today."

Every single person on the planet has a story. Don't judge people before you truly know them. The truth might surprise you!! 

Last but not least, who are we to judge how others act, look, dress or who they hang out with? To make fun of a peer is immature and shows people around you that you are close-minded.

All in all, I hope that more people start out with open minds and reduce the amount they talk about, make fun of, and judge others. Once more and more people begin to do this, it will result in a happier life for all.

Always remember, treat others how you want to be treated.